The Magic Blog has a new posting: Keep hope alive! It is talking about an interesting article: Placebo effect significantly improves women’s sexual satisfaction. And I went on to find more to feed the hopes, not yet touching the matter that women can have prolonged orgasms:
Couples Report Gender Differences in Relationship, Sexual Satisfaction Over Time (July 5, 2011) — Cuddling and caressing are important ingredients for long-term relationship satisfaction, according to an international study, which queried committed, middle-aged couples from five countries. But … > read more
Sex Really Does Get Better With Age (Just Ask A 70 Year Old) (July 9, 2008) — An increasing number of 70 year olds are having good sex and more often, and women in this age group are particularly satisfied with their sex lives, according to a new study. Knowledge about sexual … > read more
But REALLY?!! Let’s not forget that no matter how significantly affected we might be by Placebo, or aging, it still takes our partner(s) some skill to get us there. For the first 30 years of my sex life, the total number of seconds of my cumulated orgasmic time, scored by my 18 partners, was estimated at 30x12x2x10=7200 sec, 2 hours. And my latest lover achieved twice that much in one night — though not on the very first night. I call him my Sex God.
Over the past 3 years, he has found so many switches throughout my body, I have to agree that I am made of all buttons — anywhere he touch, blow air on, or even just stare at, my body would start shattering. It is not I who is sensitive — since I am not able to make it happen on my own, it is HIM. And his latest achievement — talking with our guest about how reactive I am until… I had to interrupt his conversation, or I would have done something embarrassing. I knew it was not very Sub-ish to interrupt the Master’s conversation. But I wasn’t prepared to… you know. And I don’t think they were prepared to see that either.
With all due respect, I think one of the bigger reasons that a lot of us women are not sexually happy or enthusiastic is because most of our partners don’t do enough about understanding our body and improving their skill to take us where we are able to go. But I don’t think many men are aware of that. They might think that as long as they can give us a ‘hard time’, they got what it takes to make a woman sexually happy. Parsecs away from truth! Well, my 30 years of ‘hardship’ proved that. And most of the time, they were not able to get me near the edge, let alone over it.
I was chatting with some of my male friends lately and mentioned to them regarding that matter. They did not take me seriously at first. Then I asked, “When is the last time you made a woman cum by kissing alone? by hugging alone? by only holding her ankle? by squeezing one nipple? by rubbing an ear? by command? by massaging her head? by pulling her hair? by letting her kiss your palm? by turning on a piece of classical music? by just thinking of you? or by letting her to relax on top of your back?” And one of my friends’ answered: “Wow? 90% of them, never!” Now they want to find out where they can learn how to do that!
So, in deed, it is a situation full of hope, especially if our partner would pay a little attention to our reaction to what they were doing. By the way, it has nothing to do with ‘size’, or ‘hardship’. Sensitivity is 70% mental attention + 20% loving interest + 10% creative work. And then you will be looking forward to: